So tired of the Conservative vs. Liberal debate. Always having to pick a side, no matter what arena we are in. Quit being so petty people, YOU are not the center of the universe, try showing some compassion for those around you, Pay it forward, give back, even when you don't "feel" like it. Guess what Feelings lie....and can fool even the smartest person into stupidity. Life goes by fast, and no one knows what the next day, minute, or even second holds. Get out of your heads and start listening with your heart. I don't care what race you are, (because we are all the same race= human). Yea we might have different skin colors, hair, different shaped eyes, or faces, things unique to geography, not unique to being human. I don’t care about your gender, you're sexuality, Whether you’re married or single, a pro athlete, or on disability......everyone of us is Human. Everyone, no matter where you fall on the "spectrum of classes" we've created, deserves the chance to live their dream, to help others, to find Love, and to Love themselves.
Quit putting each other down, Quit putting yourself Down (I'm not good at this), and start truly living with Integrity, honesty, love compassion, courage, strength; and stop using the Entitlement" Card as though it’s something that actually exists. No one owes you anything, you are not entitled to win you have to work for it; you are not entitled to get a car, to have money, to find love….all of these things, LIFE, takes Work. You want a good relationship?.... Then you have to work at it, you can’t just throw in the towel because suddenly it became hard. Sure some days are easy, but other days, you are in the trenches building bridges, meeting each other halfway and eventually putting the other’s needs before your own; or ultimately reaching an agreement that allows for both sides to feel validated. Do you know why The Greatest Generation made it…..Because they weren’t willing to sacrifice integrity for easy, they weren’t willing to give up on someone, to give their word and not follow through. My grandparents were married 63 years….Just Let that Sink In. That generation had less divorce, because they WORKED at it. I’ve talked with My great Aunt whose husband died when I was 9, she’s lived the rest of her life alone; “why” I asked one day, “don’t you think Uncle Mike would want you to be taken care of, to be happy”… Her response was this “I’ve never been happier than when I was married to your Uncle, I can take care of myself, I don’t need a man to do that for me, your Uncle taught me how to Work.” She worked at the same job from, the bottom to the top, as one of the best Jeweler’s in Billings for 30 years. I’m sure there were days she didn’t want to work, or days where she thought of quitting, but she didn’t, she PERSERVERED; Not many people I know would even consider working at one place for that long. LOYALTY, not just to their partners, but to their work, to their families, and to themselves. Because your word was your bond, a hand shake as good as writing it on paper. People traded goods, or work with each other, because no one had money during the Depression and the War. People banded together, for the common good of the country.
Yes, there were things that were not good, Discrimination, Child Labor, Putting people with Disabilities in institutions, and many other forms of discrimination. I know there are many more I’m not thinking of right now. But, it was also the time when new paths were paved to make things better, to try and right some of the wrongs. Family came first. And America was based on the founding fathers ideals. There was a moral code, one that seems to no longer exist. Read the constitution, read the Declaration of Independence. We are a nation that was created as a Christian Nation, like it or not, that is how it is. If you don’t like it there are plenty of other places to live. We are a nation who used to value the flag, stand behind our troops. We used to be “one Nation Under God, Indivisible…” Now it seems as everything divides us, no one cares about the betterment of one and another, only themselves. It’s now a place of inopportunity, not opportunity. Each political side blaming the other for it’s faults and failures. Guess what…..They are people too, people make mistakes, but really the problem doesn’t lie with just one person, it lies with the idea that the Political party, and their agenda, is more important than what someone believes to be morally right. When you vote you have to choose Democrat or Republican, and only use one ballot. I disagree with this, certain things I agree more with the Democratic Party on, but more often than not I’m more on the Republican side. But why does their have to be sides. Why can’t we vote in the people that are going to represent US…. That is what it’s supposed to be, yet now it seems as though no one has a voice, our votes mean nothing. The values, and ideas that my Grandfather fought for, that my Cousin Fights for, as well as many friends, have been lost to a society that values Themselves more than what’s best for the whole. So before you blame the previous president for the deficit, or whatever it is you’re blaming them for, look at the cabinets, and who was running the house and senate. Look up the voting records for your representatives and senators, it might surprise you how often they vote with the party instead of how they said they would vote for what is best for your state. It’s supposed to be a system of checks and balances but even that has been tainted. I don’t have the answers other than to try and learn from our mistakes; live with integrity, stop blaming one another, and start working together.
Also, Parents, It’s your job to raise your children not Educators, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Babysitters, etc. They can help in certain areas, but it’s your job ultimately. Educators are there to help your children become literate, capable human beings, who can write, and formulate decisions….they are not Glorified baby-sitters. I am a teacher, or at least was a teacher…yes Kids need help, and for some the teacher is the only Adult in their lives that accepts them and helps them, they become role models, and someone that student can trust, and talk to. Great!!! I’m all for that, just not the “it’s not my responsibility to teach my children right from wrong or moral values” THAT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY, if you don’t like it you shouldn’t have become a parent. Teachers are there to teach, not to hand out A’s for someone who doesn’t want to work, but whose parent or parents have pull in the system. Parents (and I’m not one) teach your children Respect, how to work hard, how to be a part of family, and why it’s important. Eat meals together, Learn about each other’s days, and give support as often as needed. You have to work for those things, and continue to work on most of them as you continue down your road. If you make a commitment to someone Keep it, even when it's hard, Arguments happen, but your word is your bond, If you can't be trusted to keep your word, it is worth nothing. If you're Married, or in a relationship, it takes WORK....life is not some fairytale! People argue, disagree, but we live in a “throw Away Society” or the “next Best thing”; unlike my grandparents who survived the Great Depression WWII, the Korean War, Vietnam, and a multitude of other events, and tragedies on the farm because why?.....They were willing to put in the work, to make it better, to take Vows seriously, and to truly take care of one another. I was able to see this in the couple of years that I took care of my grandparents: they were Married 63 years!!! I’m sure they had their “what if” thoughts, and “how do we continue to love one another’ through some really difficult times”? The answer: “HARD WORK, RESPECT, HONOR, TRUST And LOVE” . Respect is Earned, But love should just be…..Be Available to whomever, whenever it's needed. We all need help at some point, some more than others, that's just life. Is it Fair....NO WAY! I get angry with God (yes I believe in God), when Children get these horrible diseases, their lives cut short. I also learn more from them in their short lives, than I will ever learn on my own. Their spirits are amazing, Courage indescribable, Love unconditional. I Get mad that I can’t live the life I wanted, in more ways than one, That I am completely dependent on the government and my family to support me. I never dreamed I would be in the situation I’m in. But I still live by the code of “my word is my bond” if I say something I mean it, end of story. Integrity, Honesty, Loyalty, and Patriotism, are what I base my life and values on.
So, As you go about your lives, start looking around, I mean really noticing what’s important, and what are just “things that society has placed value on”. Be honest, Live fully, Love unconditionally, and Give back when you can. Because if everyone started doing a little more for others, the chain reaction would be amazing to watch. Enemies would become Allies, Marriages would last, (or if you don’t like marriage, relationships would last), People would put the people they care about above themselves; but would also strive to be the best they can be. We all have choices, as individuals, as a society, and as a human race…..Lets start making them based off of helping one another and love, instead of entitlement and hate. Thank you!!!