The fact is, nothing really changes… when the clock strikes midnight, fireworks go off, we do whatever it is we have decided to do to “forget” or “remember, we do what we must to try and stop, or gain more time. Something none of us can do; as time is fleeting, and uninterrupted, and something none of us can control.
The New Year is a celebration of the "death" of the last 365 days, and the beginning of the next 365 days. Whether they are good days or bad days, there will be more days. For many, these days will be remembered with joy and the hope for a better year. For others they may just want to bury the past, and forget.
It’s a celebration of a New Year filled with nothing, no mistakes, or missed chances. No loved ones lost, a new slate, wiped clean…Or at least that’s what we tell our brain. We focus on what we want to change and control. How we can make ourselves better, more productive, stronger, healthier; Giving ourselves goals to achieve, to become whole. Yet we are surprised that after an initial “good start” it becomes hard work, uncomfortable, not what we expected, was over rated, etc.…… and we quit.
We make it all about “me” instead of possibly thinking outside the box, and making a better “we”, whether it be through volunteering, or helping a neighbor with some homemade meals or chores, or even just not doing something that may or may not cause pain for someone else, we have that choice. The choice of giving instead of taking, pushing ourselves and not quitting, remembering and not forgetting, even if forgetting is what we truly want to do. Giving of ones’ times Is the most preciouses gift we can give, it involves stepping outside ourselves, and putting others first. Some would argue that we should do what is right for yourself, but what’s “right” when you’re not helping anyone else. Even the “lowest” of jobs really aren’t low, and in fact are some of the hardest jobs and hardest workers you will run across; and yet we judge them, instead of thanking them; we put them down, tell them they aren’t worth the time….Why, because a society so wrapped up in “self” tells us so. So we go along with the idea, we follow the idiocy of it all like blind sheep. So that this year, then, becomes much like the previous year, where we tell ourselves we’ve failed, so why even try, pick up old habits, fall back into destructive spirals, and wave goodbye to the feeling of hope we had at midnight; When toasts were given, and fireworks lit off. When lovers found a new spark and others just found new friends, or remembered how important old friends were. Some of us remember loved ones we lost, and try to immortalize who they were, and wanted us to be, by trying to stop time. But we can’t, as the seconds tick by, there isn’t much time left before we must move on, and start the next 365 days of our “new life”. So we start anew thinking we will make this year something better or different, not stopping to think if we will even see tomorrow. There is no guarantee that we have another year, month, or even day to live. If only people celebrated the "now", this moment in time, as much as we celebrate the anticipated future.
So I guess my New Years thoughts are this; some lyrics from a song Mary and I wrote while in college, but has always applied to my daily life no matter what the year number is. Do I forget it…. yes like most of all my lyrics, or poetry, but that doesn’t make it any less true. Now is just another reminder for me; but maybe for you it will bring some clarity to what New Years is all about: "Live for the moment, in the hear and now, use every second of the day, every minute and hour, you never know when this day might be your last; You gotta stop, stop living in the past , take things in stride, and don't let life pass you by, got to go for what you want and take control”. LIVE FOR THE MOMENT, just don’t forget while you are living your life with purpose, every now and then check to see if someone might need the reminder from above; or a loving hand to guide them through the darkness they might be in. Be the Light you want others to see! I wish you all happiness, but mostly I just want you all to find yourselves and a sense of peace that goes along with wherever you are at.